In September, my daughter, my youngest child, will go off to University. She is both nervous and excited. I know that she will have a great time; that she will make new friends, meet new people, learn new things, be exposed to new ideas and beliefs. I am excited for her and I tell her this with a reassuring tone.
In September, for the first time in 29 years, I will be living on my own at least half of the time. Both my kids will off at school and my husband will be away on work trips for 2 weeks at a time more than half of the time. Even the dog is gone now. It will be just me and the cat in this big house most of the time.
I know that it is a time of opportunities as well; that I will have uncommitted time to dedicate to exercise, art classes, volunteer activities, writing; activities for which there has been little time or energy over the last 22 years of parenting. But that also feels scarey.
So, I need to talk to myself in a reassuring tone; the same way that I talk to my daughter. “Yes Kim, this is a scarey time but it is also an exciting time; a time to make new friends, meet new people, learn new things, and be exposed to new ideas and beliefs. SO, jump in with both feet and have fun!!”