Many years ago, I was sitting in a circle of women in a basement in downtown Toronto. We had just completed a shamanic ceremony in which we were instructed to seek a Spirit Guide and ask for a medicine name. The phrase “afternoon storm” came to me clearly and immediately, which was unusual for me.  I have never really used the name since then. That circle of women stopped meeting shoftly after that day, I moved out of the City, and my life got full with children and work.

I never found another circle of women with whom to share ceremony and prayer. But I have thought frequently about the name; wondered what it meant for me. I love afternoon storms; how they command our attention with their power and their beauty. I love the calm that follows a storm; the stillness in the air; the sweet smell of the soil.

That ceremony was more than 16 years ago. I was pregnant with my daughter at the time. I am well into my mid-life years now; the late afternoon of my life. For 20 years, I have been scrambling through my life; juggling children, jobs, housework, soccer games, swimming lessons, and hockey games. So much has been happening on the material plane that there has not been much time or energy for the spiritual plane. And now, suddenly it seems, I have time…lots and lots of time…alone.  My son has gone to College, my husband now travels for work for weeks at a time, my daughter is at school or “hanging” with her friends, and I now work from home alone.

There is stillness in my life.  Quiet.  Peacefulness.  Time alone.  Time to think.  Time to reflect.  Time for regrets to surface; about opportunities missed, friendships lost, mistakes made.  Time to feel grief: about the stage of my life that is ending; about the mother who abandonned me; about the boss who betrayed me.  The external quiet has given birth to a raging storm within.  I am riding the storm with hands clenched to the gunnels; feeling excited by it some days; overwhelmed by it other days; and praying for the calm that will follow.

About kp

I am a woman and a mother, a sister and a wife. I have called myself a socialist and a feminist, an environmentalist and an activist, a pagan and an atheist. But, at this stage in my life, none of these labels feel right. I am searching; trying to find an inner calm; trying to make peace with life's disappointments; trying to answer the big questions in my own small life.
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4 Responses to Afternoonstorm

  1. This is a beautiful post–especially to someone in a similar boat.:) I have two sons away at college and my 18-yr old daughter will graduate from high school in June and, as with your daughter, she is gone most of the time. My storms are raging, too.
    Take care of yourself. We need to.

    • kp says:

      Thank you for your lovely note. I am new to blogging so I don’t quite “get” how people who don’t know you find your postings. So I was surprised to find your note and touched by your response. I have decided to take it as a “sign” that I am on the right track; that blogging may actually be a worthwhile acitivity. thank-you.

        • I find blogging very worthwhile, like I’m somehow sharing my life with others and sharing in their lives, too.
          Regarding how we bloggers find each other, here is the link to the categories of the posts that we all write: I don’t think WordPress lists the hundreds of thousands of posts there every day and I don’t know how long they’re stored at this location, but if you go and click on a category like Life, you’ll find other people’s posts–that’s how I found you. After the first paragraph I usually know if I can relate or not to that person and if I enjoyed the post, I like to tell them. If you have any other questions, I could try to help and if I can’t, I could probably tell you how to find help. :)
          Enjoy the ride!

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